Thoughts of a Solo Female Traveler
When people learn I’ve traveled alone, they often ask if I was scared? Lonely? Afraid of getting killed/hurt? Was it boring being all by myself? And I’m always surprised by the questions. They aren’t questions you would ask a couple or family traveling together most likely, but as a female traveling alone, it comes up more often that not. I will admit that I have all those feelings, but also ones of wonder, joy, and gratitude. I find that traveling solo is a great way to learn what makes you agitated, relaxed, on edge, etc.., and once you recognize that, you can work on changing, or focusing on those triggers or moments of happiness. I have cried on every solo trip at some point due to frustration at not understanding the language; lack of conveniences/comforts of home; being alone for those majestic moments; getting lost. But they also teach me when to show gratitude, or when to acknowledge and accept my situation and find some peace in it.
After we get through this set of questions, comes the next: “Where do you go?” “How would I even know where to start?” “ There’s no way I could do a trip on my own!” I start by saying start small and local. I started traveling alone because I had a more flexible job and the ability to travel more frequently. Since my friends mostly didn’t, I started traveling on my own. So don’t wait for your friend to finally go with you to that new exhibit or hiking trail just outside of town, go on your own. Taking a staycation for a whole or half day on your own is a great start. Or going away for a one- two night stay within driving distance is a good way to start small and acclimate to getting better acquainted with yourself.
My first trip abroad was for 2 weeks to England, Ireland, and Scotland. I had been working at an Irish pub, so had some friends to stay with in Galway. Also all three countries spoke English, so I was safe in knowing the language. My suggestion if going out of country for first time alone is to pick one that speaks your native tongue, or a language you can understand somewhat. I felt that 14 days was too long for first trip abroad and too much in my head time- I was 25 or 26 at that point. Make sure wherever you pick for the first few trips have activities and/or interests for you to do and keep yourself occupied, and limit to a weekend or less than a week. Going to a silent retreat for three weeks right off the bat might not be the best idea.
As you get more comfortable with yourself and traveling alone, you can go farther away and for longer durations. No vacation or trip is 100% perfect; there will be mishaps and sad moments, but the experience is the best education you can give yourself.
Want to go on a trip by yourself? Not sure you can or how? Reach out and ask me your questions, let me help plan a solo trip thats right for just you! Email tara@wondertowandertravel.com.